fold13 minutes agoAuthor: Ashish Raghuvanshi
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“My husband used to think that if my brother is quarrelsome, then our child will also be like that. He used to say that even animals give birth to children. You are also like animals. Giving birth to children is not a big deal. Just try to torture in everything. I was used to it. I take sleeping pills. Due to which my head was dizzy. We used to fight a lot. It happens every day. There is argument, there is fight.
Torture is their daily work. That day he left saying that he will drop you home. You are of no use I am tolerating you. You are the biggest mistake of my life. Having said this, he went away. Harpic was given to me. This made me very ill.”
This is the experience of a 19 year old girl living in Guna. He fell in love with the teacher. Went against the family and got married on 22 April 2021. Later the family members agreed. The girl also cherished dreams for a new life. A few days after the marriage, the husband became an agricultural extension officer.
Husband’s attitude changed as soon as he got a government job. He started harassing. Started fighting. College papers were also missed. The year has also been wasted. The girl has complained about domestic violence to the police five days ago in Biaora in Rajgarh district. Both also have an 11-month-old son. Police is currently counseling the husband and wife. The girl told the story of domestic violence to Dainik Bhaskar.
Story of love, marriage and torture
“My name is Rishika Rai. I am originally a resident of Binaganj in Guna district. Mother passed away about 7 years ago. After that father lives in Guna and does a private job. Used to study in Biaora. I completed my graduation in 2021. Did 12th from Arts. Stayed in Biaora and did coaching from Agri Course Academy. As soon as I came in first year, I also started teaching. Taught in 2-3 private schools. Then husband’s coaching started teaching. Love happened. We had a relationship. Both wanted to get married, but the family was not ready.
Somehow the family members agreed. Finally we got married in 2021 itself. After some time everything went fine. In July 2022, the husband got a government job as an agricultural extension officer. Everything changed after getting a job. Quarrels started on small things. Started beating me. I was sorry that I had trusted with my eyes closed. Married against the family, relatives, but the husband did not realize.
The artificial jewelery given at the wedding
Parents did a lot in marriage from their side. He took a loan for the wedding. Wearing artificial jewelery due to lack of money. By the way, gold jewelery is offered according to our custom. The in-laws used to taunt about this. They used to say that your brother is quarrelsome. Your papa is trying to eat the money. Mother-in-law also felt the same way. They used to argue about this again and again.
got used to torture
The in-laws used to taunt that your brother is also quarrelsome. You have no right on the child. Even animals give birth to children. You are also like an animal. Having a child is not a big deal. He had no idea. It was just a habit of torture in everything. Too much happened. We had a lot of fighting there. This is what happens everyday. Arguments happen, fights happen. Torture has become everyday. I started living in tension. Couldn’t sleep. About six months ago, she used to sleep with pills for sleep.
It is the morning of 7th June. That day he left saying that he will drop you home. You are of no use I am tolerating you. You are the biggest mistake of my life. My head was dizzy because of the sleeping pill. In-laws made me drink Harpic in this condition. After this my health started deteriorating. Started vomiting. I did not understand anything. I left home and came to Binaganj by bus. Got off the bus here. A woman was found there. He took me to the hospital in an auto. I was feeling dizzy. The owner of the medical store there made him sit. I gave him father’s mobile number. Father came after calling. I was admitted to the district hospital.
Society’s thinking – the girl got married, just then she has to be beaten
I wanted to become an IAS. The mentality of our society is that you are married. So you have to be beaten by your husband. He has to listen. An obedient and cultured daughter-in-law is the one who listens to her mother-in-law. Respect the husband. If she speaks something against their society, customs, then she is wrong. He is uncultured, characterless. I want to ask the society that everything cannot be taken in the old way.
Nowadays the girls are moving forward after studying. We know that we are not doing well. The change that has come because of education, we have become wise enough that we have to fight for our rights. If we have to move forward, we have to move away from old ideas. Had I thought this, then maybe I would not have been able to do a love marriage. I went against the society. I had this much faith, so I want to tell all those girls that girls like me are tolerating everything because they want to respect their parents.
Rishika has been admitted to the hospital. Rishika and her father told the whole thing while crying.
No matter how much the boy does wrong, it is considered right
I have been married for more than a year. Tolerated everything because I have done love marriage. I’ve gotten ahead of myself. I went ahead against everyone, so I tolerated everything. Then I felt that maybe the girl inside me who would fight for her rights, my conscience woke me up. Thought, how long will I tolerate. Because of the person for whom I fought with the world, my everything was ruined.
They think I am of no use. I had good marks in 10th-12th. But, everything went in vain. He (husband) used to think that do household chores, stay inside the house. I thought this was going wrong. If the girl will study and write then only she will be able to take the society forward. No matter how much wrong a boy does in the society, he is considered right. On the other hand, no matter how much a girl does right, she is considered wrong. I want my case to be heard. More and more girls should learn from this case. Fight for the right.”
(As Rishika told Dainik Bhaskar)
Now these people should be punished
Rishika told that her year was ruined because of her in-laws. Now he again has to take admission in the first year. He demands that these people should be punished. Got a government job, so forgot the love of many years. Father spent 9-10 lakh rupees in marriage. Scooty was also given in dowry, but the in-laws were not satisfied.